Reverse psychology, its power on people and relationships

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 Reverse psychology is simply a form manipulation used when you want someone to do or say something by just just simply saying the opposite of what you desire to say.

Knowing how to make use of the reverse psychology can be very useful in dealing with people or in relationships, for example, it can help parents deal with rebellious kids or a man/woman deal with a partner who loves to argue.  The effectiveness of the reverse psychology is not guaranteed in everyone, it is only certain in people who are rebellious plus it’s much easier to use when the targeted person is in an emotional state. For example if your partner doesn't want to do the house cleaning when you asking him to, don’t argue with him, simply say “fine, there is no need for you to clean it, let’s leave it the way it is, I want the people to see how filthy you are to live in a dirty house” that sort of reply will leave your partner thinking hard and eventually doing the chore because he will want to prove it to you that he can also be a clean person. Another example can be of a child who gets a F in a math test, if you tell the child you are dumb you don’t know anything, you are making the child believe that he truly is dumb and will never improve his grades but if you do the opposite, tell him that you are sure he will get an A the next math test if he studies, you will be creating a different effect on the child, you will make the child believe he can achieve the A score in the next math test once he studies more, he will eventually start studying more.

Power struggles in relationships are very common and usually none of the arguing parties want to lose the fight. The main purpose of the reverse psychology is to help minimize these unnecessary arguments in relationships and sustain them so that they can last longer.

Sources:

·        http://www.wikihow.com/Use-Reverse-Psychology;  

·        http://changingminds.org/techniques/general/more_methods/reverse_psychology.htm;

·         http://enzinearticles.com/?Using-Reverse-Psychology-In-Reationships&id=6913136   

Article Witten by : Cristo Rutazihana